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Ostracism, Exclusion, and Rejection: The Hidden Wounds

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We all need to feel connected to others. It's a basic human need. When we're ostracized, excluded, or rejected, it can feel like we're being cut off from the world. This can have a devastating impact on our physical and mental health.

Ostracism, Exclusion, and Rejection (Frontiers of Social Psychology)

by Victoria Lakefield

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Ostracism is the intentional exclusion of someone from a group. It can be as simple as ignoring someone or as extreme as shunning them from the community. Exclusion is similar to ostracism, but it's more subtle. It can involve leaving someone out of conversations or activities, or treating them like they're invisible. Rejection is the act of refusing to accept or acknowledge someone. It can be as blatant as telling someone they're not welcome or as subtle as avoiding eye contact.

All of these experiences can be painful, but ostracism is particularly harmful. It's been shown to activate the same brain regions that are activated when we're in physical pain. This suggests that ostracism is a form of social pain.

The effects of ostracism can be both immediate and long-lasting. In the short term, ostracism can lead to anxiety, depression, and anger. It can also disrupt our sleep, appetite, and concentration. In the long term, ostracism can increase our risk of developing chronic health problems, such as heart disease, stroke, and cancer.

Exclusion and rejection can also have a negative impact on our health, but their effects are typically not as severe as the effects of ostracism. However, even mild forms of exclusion and rejection can take a toll on our well-being. They can lead to feelings of loneliness, isolation, and low self-esteem.

If you're experiencing ostracism, exclusion, or rejection, it's important to seek help. Talk to a friend, family member, therapist, or other trusted person. There are also many resources available online and in your community that can provide support.

Remember, you're not alone. Millions of people experience ostracism, exclusion, and rejection every year. There is help available, and you can get through this.

Here are some tips for coping with ostracism, exclusion, and rejection:

Talk to someone you trust about what you're going through. This could be a friend, family member, therapist, or other trusted person.
Join a support group. There are many support groups available for people who have experienced ostracism, exclusion, or rejection. These groups can provide you with a safe space to share your experiences and connect with others who understand what you're going through.
Focus on your strengths and accomplishments. When you're feeling down, it's easy to focus on your weaknesses. Instead, try to focus on your strengths and accomplishments. This will help you to feel better about yourself and boost your self-esteem.
Set goals and work towards them. Having something to work towards can give you a sense of purpose and direction. Set yourself some goals and work towards them one step at a time. This will help you to feel more in control of your life and less like a victim of circumstances.
Volunteer your time to help others. Helping others can make you feel good about yourself and make a difference in the world. Volunteer your time to a cause you care about.
Be patient with yourself. Healing from ostracism, exclusion, and rejection takes time. Be patient with yourself and don't give up on yourself. You will get through this.

Ostracism, Exclusion, and Rejection (Frontiers of Social Psychology)

by Victoria Lakefield

4 out of 5